Author: Rebecca Bedford; Editor: Crystal Knight

As my usual viewers know, I am working on my new season of videos coming out in November 2018 and today I decided to give a glimpse into the topics we will be discussing. I am so excited for the amazing level of production and content I have been working on! My earlier videos make me cringe on sound, production, and my tendency for rambling. With age comes wisdom and I am proud of the videos soon to come your way!

Now on to today’s topic: “To Feabie or Not to Feabie?”

Feabie is a social media website that focuses on eeders and feedees. Their website states the following: “Feabie is a social network and dating site for feeders, feedees, fat admirers and BBW/BHM. We’re a quirky bunch of men and women who love words like, curvy, thick, plump,. bellied, chubby, fat, obese, supersize and so much more.” They currently boast almost 119,000 members.

Users have a profile where they can upload pictures and a section which allows them to tell a bit about themselves. Like Facebook, each user page has a wall where they can post and other users can comment. Users can search the website for people by age, BMI, weight/height, and kink. It also has a GPS locator so you can see what members are near you (this can be deactivated in settings if desired). Feabie is NOT just for those looking to get into the gaining lifestyle; it is also for men and women looking to meet people of size for friendship or dating/relationships.

I have a profile on Feabie for Being an SSBBW ; many of you have messaged me on it. I thank you for your words of encouragement and compliments. I also run a profile for Living Large Chicago-Milwaukee, a size acceptance group here in Chicagoland. I am their social media director.

My first impression of Feabie was, “WHOA! It is like Facebook for fat, kinky people!” I loved it! It was a great way to meet people and to enjoy a safe space to talk about size, kink, and fetish. As a lot of my viewers know, I am very open about sex and sexual preferences. Now, to be clear, I am NOT a feedee. I have played around with it briefly for my past partner’s sake and while I found it enjoyable, it is not something I could do long term.

I think there is a lot of potential with this website, however there are some downsides. Personally, I do not care for the interface or app. It doesn’t really flow naturally and isn’t as user friendly as it could be. Searching for hashtags doesn’t really work and the app seems to freeze up a lot. Additionally, when I first signed up for the website there was an option to be a paid member but you could still easily use the site for free. However, as time has gone by, they have given their free users less and less ability to see and answer messages, see people online, and view pictures. There was a period where I was a paid member but with all the app issues I was having $9 per month just didn’t seem worth it. I felt like for that amount I could be paying for a streaming service and so I picked my Spotify account over Feabie’s paid membership. I know that running a website costs money and requires a lot of work so I encourage people that like it to get paid accounts, however it just wasn’t worth it for me. I may become a paid member again in the future.

What I really like is how many young people are using the website and connecting with each other! I knew nothing about the Plus Size community for most of my twenties and so seeing so many younger adults meeting and coming into their own makes me happy for the future. We have a great group of Feabieians that come out to LLC’s events and I am always so happy to see them all together. The fact that Feabie brings so many people together means it gets my vote!

As to the feeding and feeder cultures and that lifestyle dynamic: I will delve into that much deeper in another blog/ video.

So let me know what you guys think of Feabie. Are you a member? Have you had any luck making friends or partners on the website? Have you experienced the tech problems I have? I want to hear your opinions. Make sure to write a comment or email me at

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